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My Wish List for Your 2016

2015 is drawing to a close and I just finished my last newsletter of the year. I thought I would share a preview of what will be released tomorrow. Please subscribe and get access to the entire list today!

I’ve been reflecting on what I want for all of you in the next year of your lives and leadership.

I drafted the top five things I learned in 2015. I dashed off a bunch of brainy concepts on trends I see for 2016. None of it felt right, because it wasn’t from my heart.

What was on my heart — what is on my heart — is what I want for you as a leader. Here’s my wish list for you. I hope it becomes yours as well.

What I Want for You as a Leader

I want you to be courageous. I want you to tell the truth and be real.
I want you to be humble and to be confident. Call it humble-confidence.
I want you to be clear about your priorities and honor them.
I want you to communicate, and once you feel you have, then do it again six more times. I want you to connect with others in a new and meaningful way. I want you to listen, truly listen to others and hear what they are saying and what they are not saying.
I want you to delegate 50% more. You need help to do so, thus I want you to ask for help.
I want you to see people, not as objects or obstacles but as human beings. I want you to see their strengths and identify their weaknesses. I want you to focus on their strengths and encourage them to use them daily. Try coaching a weakness into a strength by positive transformation (i.e. a poor communicator can be an excellent communicator with self-awareness and instruction.)
I want you to celebrate wins and to catch people doing what’s right.
I want you to engage in healthy conflict — daily. Disengage from dysfunctional conflict. Know the difference.
I want you to seek alignment. That’s a big statement.
I want you to have clarity and to truly focus on what matters only, everyday. I want you to live with purpose and lead others in a manner so they can live their purpose.
I want you to be heard. I want you to be seen. I want you to be understood. I want you to first do the same for others, be the first to serve.
I want you to take care of yourself mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally. I want you to know your weak area and get a coach or mentor to help you with it.
I want you to call out greatness in others and I want you to be great.
Simply, “to be” is the key. I want you to be the best you can be in 2016.

Next week I will share what I want you to STOP doing in 2016! Don’t miss it! Check out our website for a self-evaluation that goes along with the newsletter article.

Your Coach,



On Track or Derailed? Five Reasons Goals Fail

We are 3 weeks into the new year, and it seemed like a good time to talk about why our goals sometimes fail. This article was posted a few years ago on our blog, and I hope it inspires you to really give your intentions for the year some thought. If our coaches can help you define your WHY, WHAT, HOW AND WHEN, please let us know!



My grandpa was a railroad engineer, so I grew up loving trains. From real ones to the models around the Christmas tree, I love to watch them roar along their clack-ity track. To this day, I love to walk along an endless railroad track balancing on the rail to see how far I can get before slipping off and then trying it again.

meandgpaBecause of this fondness, the thought of a train derailing is troubling. The image of that massive strength and power of those fierce engines lying helpless in a field or worse, in heap of metal, disturbs me.

Derailments are far and few between but when they happen, it’s a big deal. While they are unintentional, you can count on authorities investigating to get to the source. Why? So the tragedy won’t happen again.

 Are You Derailed or On Track?

We are 20 days into 2015. How many of you already feel derailed in your New Year goals? If you are feeling derailed or simply not satisfied with your journey so far, let’s take a look at why you are off-track — and get you back on it.

Why Goals Fail

 1. The WHY Is Not Identified.

WHY do you want this goal? You have to start with something bigger than your goal. You must get to your purpose — “the why” you exist. Your values should dictate your goals, not the other way around. I love True Life Coaching’s course, Life 301, because we dig deep to identify the barriers to living your values and only set goals after your values are identified. In business, core values and purpose statement are essential for your culture and the why people work for you.

2. The WHAT Is Not Defined.

Once your WHY is identified, then you need a plan to live it out. This is your defined vision and mission. WHAT is it you want to accomplish in order to live your WHY? WHAT is needed? WHAT is wanted? WHAT will you do? In business, this is your strategic plan, from the five-year plan to the one-year goals to the quarterly theme to every single person on the team knowing their WHAT.

gpa_green3. The HOW Is Not Clear.

Now that you know WHAT you are going to do to fulfill the WHY, it is time to get very clear on HOW you will accomplish it. Clarity and ownership is essential at this juncture. The fastest way to clarity is to get a trusted team around you to turn over every possibility, challenge the status quo, and identify every blind spot. It’s called productive conflict and will take you and/or your team to the next level.

4. The WHEN Is Not Serious.

Action steps to accomplish your goals must have a “by when” assigned to it. When the HOW is not broken down into action steps with dates attached to the steps, it is in grave danger of derailment. Solution: Calendar Management! Put the due dates in with appropriate reminders included, schedule blocks of non-negotiable time to work on the next step, and secure white space so you can think clearly. (Confession: This my personal downfall!)

5. The WHO is not aligned.

Last but far, far from least you must get the right people in your life to help you achieve your goals. This may mean dismissing Negative Nellie or Downer Don from your circle of influence. It may require re-evaluating your culture, allowing those who do not align with your direction to exit gracefully and then attracting people who appreciate and support your WHY gratefully. Alignment of the right people doing the right thing in the right time for the right reason is sheer bliss and is quite actually simple – it’s just not easy!

 The First Step — Today

So what is one thing you could do today to get yourself back on track. For me, it is calendar management. I need to block some time out, and so I am going to go do that right now. How about you? You are all smart leaders on this list. Listen to your gut and take two minutes — set the timer on your phone to commit and calendar your one thing! Right now!

Here’s to 2015 being the best year yet!

Your Coach,



Happy New Year! New Year, New Promises, Big Dreams

Happy New Year! It is an honor and a joy to have served you this year and I look forward to another incredible year supporting you to your next level.

For the last decade, we have used a comprehensive form to assist our clients in their new year planning. This year, Michael Hyatt interviewed top achievers such as, Tony Robbins, Jeff Walker, Chalene Johnson, and Dave Ramsey, to see what they do to prepare for their new year. I was pleased to see that our form captures their main points. I thought you might enjoy reading the experts’ advice and find you have your own experts right here ready to serve you another year. We invite you to complete the form and send it back via email for our next session together and we will keep on file and send to you this time next year. It is a fun tradition we do with many of our clients.

Are you excited for 2015 with its promise of a fresh start and hope for our big dreams to come true?  I know 2014 was that for me. I got married on 12-13-14 and have enjoyed taking a few weeks off. Thank you for your well wishes and fun presents. You can read all about it at www.johnandshandel.com

Alas, 2015 is upon us and I am headed to San Francisco with my new husband for our first annual planning session. We have the same form and are going to plan out our entire year and start filling up our calendar with all the things that matter most.

We will be closed until January 5th, but please know that on Monday we are back in the saddle and ready to serve you!

This could be your year. Let’s do this!

Your Coach,