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The Top 10 Tips on How To Have a Positive Attitude

Sometimes we let our attitudes control everything in our lives.  Here are some great reminders of how to positively affect your life by simply changing the way you think!

The Top 10 Tips on How To Have a Positive Attitude

1. Take ownership of your attitude.

We control our attitude. It is not something that is genetically or environmentally determined. Each of us can decide what our attitude is going to be. We can choose to have a positive attitude about life. A ready smile is a gift to all those around you.

2. Take action to eliminate what bothers you.

You may be putting up with more things than you have realized. Think about what you are tolerating. You may be tolerating things, or ways that someone speaks to you, that you don’t like. Just paying attention to what you are tolerating will be the first step towards eliminating it. Tolerations infect your attitude.

3. Live in the present.

Let go of living in the past or in the future and enjoy the present.

4. Let go of things that don’t matter.

Stop wasting energy on being irritated and annoyed at things that really don’t matter.

5. Be non-judgmental.

Let go of being critical of others. Try instead to listen and understand. As you open yourself up to not judging others you will be able to accept yourself and others more.

6. Listen to yourself and trust what you hear.

Let go of other people’s voices that you carry in your head. Instead, listen to yourself and take responsibility for what you can and want to do.

7. Live your values.

By living your life according to your values you will develop an attitude of true acceptance of yourself. You will realize that you are fine the way you are. You may choose to make some changes in your life simply because you realize that you have greater potential than you have utilized so far.

8. Have fun and enjoy humor.

Take delight in life and create fun experiences for yourself. Don’t make life be too heavy.

9. Invest energy in the people who you love and care about.

Meaningful relationships are developed and sustained by positive attitudes and commitment.

10. Develop an attitude of love.

By developing a loving attitude towards yourself you will in turn interact with others from a basis of love.

Your Coach,

sig_shandel

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This piece was originally submitted by Kristina von Rosenvinge

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How’s Your Attitude?

You’ve heard the phrase, “attitude is everything”. Maybe it was a parent, a coach in school, or even an employer. But really, how important is attitude? Does it play a role compared to IQ? This article from Forbes thinks so!

Read on, and please comment below with your thoughts!

Why Attitude is More Important than IQ

When it comes to success, it’s easy to think that people blessed with brains are inevitably going to leave the rest of us in the dust. But new research from Stanford University will change your mind (and your attitude).

Psychologist Carol Dweck has spent her entire career studying attitude and performance, and her latest study shows that your attitude is a better predictor of your success than your IQ.

Dweck found that people’s core attitudes fall into one of two categories: a fixed mindset or a growth mindset.

With a fixed mindset, you believe you are who you are and you cannot change. This creates problems when you’re challenged because anything that appears to be more than you can handle is bound to make you feel hopeless and overwhelmed.

People with a growth mindset believe that they can improve with effort. They outperform those with a fixed mindset, even when they have a lower IQ, because they embrace challenges, treating them as opportunities to learn something new.

Common sense would suggest that having ability, like being smart, inspires confidence. It does, but only while the going is easy. The deciding factor in life is how you handle setbacks and challenges. People with a growth mindset welcome setbacks with open arms.

According to Dweck, success in life is all about how you deal with failure. She describes the approach to failure of people with the growth mindset this way,

“Failure is information—we label it failure, but it’s more like, ‘This didn’t work, and I’m a problem solver, so I’ll try something else.’”

Regardless of which side of the chart you fall on, you can make changes and develop a growth mindset. What follows are some strategies that will fine-tune your mindset and help you make certain it’s as growth oriented as possible.

Don’t stay helpless. We all hit moments when we feel helpless. The test is how we react to that feeling. We can either learn from it and move forward or let it drag us down. There are countless successful people who would have never made it if they had succumbed to feelings of helplessness: Walt Disney was fired from the Kansas City Star because he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas,” Oprah Winfrey was fired from her job as a TV anchor in Baltimore for being “too emotionally invested in her stories,” Henry Ford had two failed car companies prior to succeeding with Ford, and Steven Spielberg was rejected by USC’s Cinematic Arts School multiple times. Imagine what would have happened if any of these people had a fixed mindset. They would have succumbed to the rejection and given up hope. People with a growth mindset don’t feel helpless because they know that in order to be successful, you need to be willing to fail hard and then bounce right back.

Be passionate. Empowered people pursue their passions relentlessly. There’s always going to be someone who’s more naturally talented than you are, but what you lack in talent, you can make up for in passion. Empowered people’s passion is what drives their unrelenting pursuit of excellence. Warren Buffett recommends finding your truest passions using, what he calls, the 5/25 technique: Write down the 25 things that you care about the most. Then, cross out the bottom 20. The remaining 5 are your true passions. Everything else is merely a distraction.

Take action. It’s not that people with a growth mindset are able to overcome their fears because they are braver than the rest of us; it’s just that they know fear and anxiety are paralyzing emotions and that the best way to overcome this paralysis is to take action. People with a growth mindset are empowered, and empowered people know that there’s no such thing as a truly perfect moment to move forward. So why wait for one? Taking action turns all your worry and concern about failure into positive, focused energy.

Then go the extra mile (or two). Empowered people give it their all, even on their worst days. They’re always pushing themselves to go the extra mile. One of Bruce Lee’s pupils ran three miles every day with him. One day, they were about to hit the three-mile mark when Bruce said, “Let’s do two more.” His pupil was tired and said, “I’ll die if I run two more.” Bruce’s response? “Then do it.” His pupil became so angry that he finished the full five miles. Exhausted and furious, he confronted Bruce about his comment, and Bruce explained it this way: “Quit and you might as well be dead. If you always put limits on what you can do, physical or anything else, it’ll spread over into the rest of your life. It’ll spread into your work, into your morality, into your entire being. There are no limits. There are plateaus, but you must not stay there; you must go beyond them. If it kills you, it kills you. A man must constantly exceed his level.”

If you aren’t getting a little bit better each day, then you’re most likely getting a little worse—and what kind of life is that?

Expect results. People with a growth mindset know that they’re going to fail from time to time, but they never let that keep them from expecting results. Expecting results keeps you motivated and feeds the cycle of empowerment. After all, if you don’t think you’re going to succeed, then why bother?

Be flexible. Everyone encounters unanticipated adversity. People with an empowered, growth-oriented mindset embrace adversity as a means for improvement, as opposed to something that holds them back. When an unexpected situation challenges an empowered person, they flex until they get results.

Don’t complain when things don’t go your way. Complaining is an obvious sign of a fixed mindset. A growth mindset looks for opportunity in everything, so there’s no room for complaints.

Bringing It All Together

By keeping track of how you respond to the little things, you can work every day to keep yourself on the right side of the chart above.

Your Coach,

sig_shandel

 

 

Special thanks to Forbes and Travis Bradberry for the article.

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Choosing to Go Forward

If you’re not facing a business crisis right now, you will be soon. Are you prepared?

The waves are rough in a sea of adversity. But learning to swim in that setting provides you with one heck of an opportunity.

You may not be able to change the events and circumstances of the world around you. But you can choose your attitude, change your behavior, and act intentionally to take advantage of all the prospects that surround you.

However, until you stop reacting to the loss of “what was” and start responding to “what is”, you will stay in an emotionally arrested state, hunkered down in a state of fear which will never produce the results you can be proud of.

I am not saying, “Just think positive.” What I am suggesting is, surround yourself with people who will tell you the truth and help you focus not on the “how” or the “what” of your operation, but on the “who” and “why.”

What you can control, influence, and impact, do so. What you cannot control, surrender to. Not surrender in a give-up kinda way. Surrender in a courageous, bold way – intentionally dismissing the fear (false sense of controlling) and the negative self-limiting beliefs so that you may see through eyes of faith (the opposite of fear) to the amazing opportunities all around you.

Get help, get clear, and get in front of your team and talk to them! If you are scared and you actually have control, information, and power, consider your people’s emotional state every waking hour of the day without control, information, or power. Pull your employees together and methodically process with them the emotion, the fear, and the uncertainty of what is going on. Get them on the same page of how to maximize results and creatively seize opportunities!

Once you have done that, look around your sphere of influence and help others do the same. People need the real you to lead them. Courage is key in a time like this. The faster you can come to grips with your own fears, the sooner you are ready to reignite hope and optimism from an authentic place.

Your Coach,

sig_shandel

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Are You Motivated By Negativity?

The brain naturally gravitates toward the negative. A judgmental attitude is cancer to any relationship. Every working person knows how negativity wreaks havoc in the workplace and sends everyone home in a bad mood. As leaders we have the opportunity to train people to think differently and arm them with tools to think positively and appreciate diversity of thought.

In our leadership development workshops, the most helpful tool we have is the Personal Motivation and Engagement assessment. Have you taken it, yet? If not, talk to me because it cuts through all the noise to give you knowledge on how to understand your style.

At True Life, we use this assessment to identify a person’s top six motivators, which are made up of one’s beliefs, attitudes and values. Here is an example of just one of the motivators: The Individualistic.

You can join our You Tube channel to see the other motivators at your leisure. For now, suffice it to say, your top two motivators are what get you out of bed in the morning. They make you excited to take action on something that brings you joy — like making money, learning something new, helping a person in need, or making an impact on a large scale. The top two motivators are what we use to think positively, to move toward things we value.

Conversely, our bottom motivators may cause us to be judgmental and to be trapped in our own negative world of criticism. If we are not aware of what motivates us and equally what “de-motivates” us, we are in danger of criticizing others when they think and behave differently than we do.

Awareness of what our motivators and values are helps us avoid judging others. Instead we learn to accept that people think differently than and are motivated differently than we are. Thus it shields us from the hazards of being a critical person.

But if that awareness doesn’t happen, having a judgmental, critical spirit leads you to be controlling of others.

This is based in fear. You see, if your story is that you are right and you are the expert, then you automatically limit your growth to learn and evolve as a person. People learn and grow from their mistakes of judgment.

If you are always right and never wrong, you are probably a very small thinker who believes you are the smartest person in the room. This often leads to an unprofitable business, a depressed life, and an unhappy marriage full of blind spots and joy killers.

If any of this even remotely describes your situation, we need to talk!

Your Coach,

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