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What are you Worrying About?

Everyone has fear. The courageous learn to not listen to fear. Instead they choose to take action and press through to do what’s right.

The cowardly learn to listen to fear. They choose either passivity or control to hide behind — and ultimately compromise their values resulting in a boring meaningless life.

Either way it’s a choice. Your choice.

False Sense of Control

Choosing to not worry is nothing short of a miracle every day. Yes I fail sometimes. But what I notice is that when I stop myself, whatever I am thinking about is not that urgent, rational, or even real. When I stop the thought, nothing in my life changes!

You know why? Worry is trying to control the future, which clearly cannot be done. When we are anxious it is never about the present, it always about the future — and our need to control it.

Worry is a big fat lie and a false sense of control — which is addicting if you haven’t noticed.

Recently on a coaching call, I had a client share about his victory over anxiety. He shared that his “A-HA” was that he is really good at solving problems and even better when it is a crisis. He is sometimes at his best in those situations. Therefore, why worry that something might happen when, first of all, it rarely ever comes true, and secondly, when it does, he is the man for the job to solve the problem quickly and efficiently? He has his joy back.

Learn to Trust

It’s true. We have what it takes to solve most problems! We all struggle with different fears, depending on how we are wired. Your fears may not even faze me, while my fears might make you laugh.

I am learning how much I suck at trust and lean heavily on worry for a false sense of security and control. However, I am learning the great lesson of trusting in something bigger than myself for that 3% of negative that might happen, and to leave the 97% behind (or at least for tomorrow to worry about LOL).

Live Fearlessly!

I often will ask my clients, “What if the fear of ______ (name area here) did not exist in your life, then what would you do?” The answers that pour forth are so amazing and life-giving it always gives me goosebumps. Try it right now and you will see what I mean.

Dismiss worry from your life! Or at least try it out for a few weeks. Join me for the next two weeks! Do not allow yourself to worry and see what happens!

Let me know your thoughts below.

Fearlessly Your Coach,

sig_shandel

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What It Looks Like to Follow Up and Follow Through

To follow through or to not follow through — that is NOT the question! The question, what does it look like in your world to be a master of the skills of Follow-Up and Follow-Through? (See previous blog entries for the Why and the How!)

You are a master of Follow-Up and Follow-Through when you:

  • Have a vision for your commitments. Use visual reminders in your work area to boost your motivation.
  • Provide encouragement and motivation to others. You’ll uplift yourself in the process.
  • Follow prevailing standard operating procedures (if established) until you can improve on them. Model your actions on someone successful.
  • Plan your processes ahead of time. Create checklists so you don’t have to rely on memory to ensure each step is completed.
  • Schedule next steps using specific dates and times. Use business tools such as mobile devices or computer calendars to set automatic reminders at the time you schedule.
  • Respect other people’s time and wishes by asking what works for them and being on time.
  • Plan to take actions every day that can move you toward your commitments.
  • Schedule periodic evaluations of your effectiveness. Identify what actions were missing that could have improved outcomes and add them to your checklists.
  • Offer resources of value to others based on their needs, working towards a win-win situation.

When it comes to sales or new business development, you as a master of Follow-Up and Follow-Through:

  • Embed your campaign with value. This is helpful for building new relationships, maintaining current ones and expanding current engagements into larger accounts.
  • Build a favorable “personal brand recognition” with your customers by using frequent, brief emails, tweets or phone calls to provide communications the customer is genuinely interested in.
  • Educate people to aid their decision-making process and motivate them to action. Help prospects move towards making a decision without pressure or hype.
  • Personalize your efforts. Plan ahead to provide something of value from the other person’s point of view.
  • Be persistent, but don’t continually pester people who have told you no. Have a valid business reason (such as new information) for asking them to reconsider.
  • Ask permission to follow up with them at a later date when they may have further needs. Set a reminder to do so.

These are just the beginning of applying Follow-Up and Follow-Through in your working world. Of course you can (and need to!) apply Follow-Up and Follow-Through in your personal life as well.

If you could use a little assistance in strengthening these skills, let us know. We’ll follow up with ya!

Your Coach,

sig_shandel

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Worry is a False Sense of Control

Everyone has fear. The courageous learn to not listen to fear. Instead they choose to take action and press through to do what’s right.

The cowardly learn to listen to fear. They choose either passivity or control to hide behind — and ultimately compromise their values resulting in a boring meaningless life.

Either way it’s a choice. Your choice.

False Sense of Control

Remember I gave up worry for Lent? Well, choosing to not worry is nothing short of a miracle every day. Yes I fail sometimes. But what I notice is that when I stop myself, whatever I am thinking about is not that urgent, rational, or even real. When I stop the thought, nothing in my life changes!

You know why? Worry is trying to control the future, which clearly cannot be done. When we are anxious it is never about the present, it always about the future — and our need to control it.

Worry is a big fat lie and a false sense of control — which is addicting if you haven’t noticed.

Today on a coaching call, I had a client share about his victory over anxiety. He shared that his “A-HA” was that he is really good at solving problems and even better when it is a crisis. He is sometimes at his best in those situations. Therefore, why worry that something might happen when, first of all, it rarely ever comes true, and secondly, when it does, he is the man for the job to solve the problem quickly and efficiently. He has his joy back.

Learn to Trust

It’s true. We have what it takes to solve most problems! We all struggle with different fears, depending on how we are wired. Your fears may not even faze me, while my fears might make you laugh.

In my fast from worry, I am learning how much I suck at trust and lean heavily on worry for a false sense of security and control. However, I am learning the great lesson of trusting in something bigger than myself for that 3% of negative that might happen, and to leave the 97% behind (or at least for tomorrow to worry about LOL).

Live Fearlessly!

I often will ask my clients, “What if the fear of ______ (name area here) did not exist in your life, then what would you do?” The answers that pour forth are so amazing and life-giving it always gives me goosebumps. Try it right now and you will see what I mean.

Dismiss worry from your life! Or at least try it out for a few weeks. Join me for the next two weeks! Do not allow yourself to worry and see what happens!

Oh and one more thing. This entire epidemic of fear is the reason our theme to the 6th Annual LEXI Women’s Leadership Summit is FEARLESS! Send your women to it! Seriously you need to invest in the women in your life in this area of being courageous and bold in all areas. It is Friday, May 2, 2014, and here is a special promotional code for my personal discount when you register: tlc2014. SEND YOUR WOMEN!

Let me know your thoughts below.

Fearlessly Your Coach,

sig_shandel

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I Gave Up Worry for Lent

What, me worry?

Truthfully, I’ve never seen myself as a person who worries. I guess I have so many people around me who worry about everything, I thought I’m was pretty good in the area.

Wrong.

Last month, I returned from vacation on Fat Tuesday. At the airport every TV station had stories about what people were giving up for Lent. I thought, what the heck I need to lose a few pounds. I’ll give up white sugar.

That didn’t sit well with me, though. It had been on my mind to try this ancient 40-day tradition, but I wasn’t very serious and hadn’t gotten around to researching its significance. I decided right then to get real quiet and ask God what I should give up for Lent. I was shocked at the answer.

Fear-Driven Action

The voice in my head said “WORRY.”

Worry?  What? I knew that voice wasn’t me as “worry” would be the last thing in the world I would bring up. Therefore, I thought I’d better take this seriously.

OH MY GOODNESS! What I have realized in the last few weeks is that my worry can look like action at times (aka workaholic.) When I begin to worry, I immediately take action and do something. Except for when I am lying in bed, driving in my car, washing dishes, then I fool myself into calling it planning.

Poison to Our Joy

Now don’t get me wrong. I am all for planning, I’m a business coach, for goodness’ sake! However, I have had to admit in my “fasting from worry” that what often looks like strategizing and planning is plain old-fashion worry…and it is poison to our present joy and happiness.

Take a look at what drives your activities.

Be honest.

Is your busyness based on fear?

LEXI: Get Fearless!

This entire epidemic of fear is the reason our theme of the 6th Annual LEXI Women’s Leadership Summit is FEARLESS!

Send your women to it! Seriously, you need to invest in the women in your life in this area of being courageous and bold in all areas.

It is Friday, May 2, 2014, and here is a special promotional code for my personal discount when you register: tlc2014. SEND YOUR WOMEN!

Let me know your thoughts below.

This is adapted from the article in my monthly newsletter – sign up if you don’t get it already.

Fearlessly Your Coach,

sig_shandel

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Shandel Recognized as Coach of the Year!

True Life Coaching loves to spotlight the accomplishments of our clients and the companies we work with! Today we get to spotlight the accomplishment of our own Shandel Slaten – while she’s away on vacation we are writing this :) .

True Life Coach Mary Beth King speaks …

For the past year I have had the privilege of working alongside Shandel as a fellow True Life coach.

I have seen first hand the genuine caring and commitment that she has toward her clients and her colleagues. She sees each of us for what we can be, even when we don’t see it ourselves.

She passionately calls us each to step up, to grow, to make the difference in the world that we can.

Shandel has been chosen as this year’s Coach of the Year, an honor bestowed on her by her peers. It recognizes that she powerfully impacts the lives of her clients and her fellow coaches, and acknowledges her clear commitment to make the world a better place.

She intuitively walks her talk, and by her words and actions calls each of us to do the same.

- Mary Beth King

Scottsdale, Ariz. January 30, 2014 — Author and life coach, Shandel Slaten, who has worked with business professionals from entrepreneurs to employees of Fortune 100 firms, has been recognized by TTI Success Insights (TTI SI) as 2014 Coach of The Year!

“This network is full of superior performers who consistently lead the way in providing excellent consulting to their clients, whether in selection, coaching, training or speaking,” TTI SI President John Hersey said. “It is truly our pleasure to recognize their achievements with these awards. That’s what makes this network extraordinary.”

Testimonial: “Our Company was going through trying times – primarily around a breakdown of trust. We brought Shandel on to facilitate re-building that trust and more so, addressing the communication styles of the partners and our employees. As emotionally painful as the process was – it became one of the two most awakening moments in my life. Our company went from ‘holding on for dear life’ to a company focused on phenomenal work and growth.” – Mark Dyce, Principal, 206inc / Seattle, WA

Words from Shandel: “What an incredible honor and I am humbled by this recognition!” stated Slaten. “I love coaching executives and professionals who want to better define and execute their purpose, strengthen their leadership skills, and hone their self-awareness. To do so, I use the TTI SI assessments. With the information I receive from them, I can then lead the executive, and their team, to reinforce principles of trust and communication that foster a more successful, productive business culture.”

Congratulations, Shandel!

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The Top 3 Takeaways from An Employee Survey

Yesterday I had the joy of training 44 supervisors in a progressive company that has been around for nearly 100 years. We debriefed their employee survey results and discussed actions we could take to better support the manager and supervisors. Ironically, the top 3 results are the same in almost every company I have the privilege of coaching:  Communication, Recognition and Training.

Communication

If you are a leader then you are fully aware that communication is an ever-growing need in every organization. Communication and trust go hand in hand. If there is a communication problem you can pretty much assume there is a trust issue. Trust and Communication are always at risk of silent erosion; thus, leaders must pay special attention to these two areas on a consistent basis.

Recognition

Positive recognition for the work that is getting done. The desire for more more “atta boys” and verbal recognition for what is going right. How often do you pay attention to what people are doing right?  It was a great opportunity for me to share about the Emotional Bank Account. For every negative withdrawal (or interaction) you make, it takes five positive ones to compensate. As leaders we must be overly zealous in our positive affirmations of our co-workers … and, really, everyone in our lives!

Training

It seems with the fast pace of growth, we just need a warm body in the position and training can happen later. Unfortunately, what I often find is that the lack of training becomes a huge source of employee dissatisfaction. You can assume that whatever training you have presently is probably not sufficient. Leadership training on communication, trust building, conflict resolution, active listening, and how to lead a high performing team are just a few of things we are tackling this week. For a leadership team of seven people you will want to work on these skills bi-annually and at least bring them into the conversation evaluating how you are doing in these areas quarterly.

Whenever you run an employee survey you want to make sure you have an effective debrief session and then you must ensure you follow up on all initiatives. You will destroy trust if you do not handle the results effectively, so get help if you are not 100% certain you know what you are doing and until then work on the top three issues above and you will be on your way to great success.

I would love to hear below any other observations you have from employee surveys you have participated in.

Your Coach,

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Business Coaching Brings Success to Local Business

Tonight at 11pm, local TV station, KOLO 8 featured True Life Coaching with an inspiring online headline Business Coaching Brings Success to Local Company. Bringing on two new coaches this month and launching Clarity: Focusing on What Matters gives me plenty to talk about these days!

After interviewing me, they wanted to interview a TLC client so I suggested one of my favorite Reno peeps, Mike Bosma. You will find that The Bosma Group culture is one to be proud of and the proof speaks in that they have been a Greater Reno-Tahoe Best Places to Work finalist for the last 3 years. They are dedicated to happy profitable customers and serving their local community with excellence. They have grown so fast that they need to move and next week open up the Bosma Business Center!

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The Summer of Clarity – Accountability, Leadership, and YOU!

Accountability is a hot topic right now amongst my colleagues and clients.  Leaders are sometimes the worst at being accountable to their personal and professional growth.  Think about it.  When was the last time you were so honest with yourself that you had that urgent feeling to make a real change?

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