The 5 EQ skills – How to develop and apply them during the Holidays.
Coach Mary Beth King has some great insight on how we can use our skills and develop our Emotional Intelligence during the stress and busyness of the Holidays.
As you lead through this Season, how do you feel? Are you stressed, irritable, or filled with joy this time of year? If you know your EQ strengths and weaknesses, use them now to set you on the right path to experience peace and productivity.
It is no secret…we love to help individuals and organizations identify and learn about EQ! In fact, check out our flyer with EQ information and a sample talent report.
Leaders – you might find these facts interesting: According to a study by Career Builder, 2600 professionals in human resources and/or hiring managers were asked about the importance of EQ vs IQ. So what did they find? “Seventy-one percent said they value emotional intelligence in an employee more than IQ.” They also found that “75 percent said they’re more likely to promote the high EI worker.”
We know you will enjoy this contribution from Mary Beth.
Here’s Mary Beth……..
Our memories of the holidays span the range from spectacularly fabulous to horrifically awful. At least four weeks every year we are thrust into adding to our file of memories. Your file includes the year you:
- got your bike, or didn’t
- first lit the menorah candles or put bulbs on the tree
- watched your host drop the turkey as she took it out of the oven
- accepted a marriage proposal
- looked forward to your baby’s birth
- were changed by the miracle of Hanukkah or the birth of the Savior
- had plenty of money for gifts and the year you did not
- held your first grandchild
Your file grows every year.
You will add to your holiday memories file again this year. Like so much of life, we often let the holidays just happen to us. As leaders – in your organization, your family, and your life – I invite you to use and grow your emotional intelligence, and purposely create your memories.
Leadership Skill: Leading through the Holidays
Emotional intelligence (EQ) has been recently embraced in the business world as the most important predictor of success, significantly more important than competencies or IQ. The skills of EQ are:
– Self-awareness. Everything you see, hear, touch, smell, and taste elicits an emotional response. Pay attention to how you feel when you are immersed in the details of putting together the holiday party, or buying gifts, or hearing “that” song.
– Self-regulation. The intensity of feelings or the sheer volume of them floods you with stress hormones and invites you to become aggressive or emotionally distant. Discover and use tools that specifically elicit a relaxation response for you – a shorter to-do list, cheery holiday song, a warm holiday drink, or maybe a conversation with someone who cares.
– Motivation. The key to creating your holiday memories is knowing ultimately what you want.
- Less stress?
- More time with family?
- Spiritual renewal?
- Beautiful pictures?
- No new pounds?
When feelings threaten to derail what you want, remember that you have self-regulation tools to get you back on track.
– Empathy. Knowing your feelings, how to regulate them, and what is motivating you, leads you to reach out to others to co-create what you want. You find yourself connecting more genuinely with others because you will need their collaboration to successfully create what you want.
– Social skills. EQ is the catalyst to nurturing positive, effective relationships that naturally create the holiday memories that you want, while at the same time helping others to do the same.
How are you doing, 0 – 10, leading through the holidays?
Today my overall holiday EQ is a 6.
- Self-awareness: My mother has recently died so I am immersed in the powerful and ever-changing emotions of grieving.
- Self-regulation: I am walking more, eating a bit better, stopping when I need a break, and regularly imbibing in my favorite Starbucks holiday drink.
- Motivation: I know I want this year’s holiday memories to include family, friends, God, and healing.
- Empathy: I need to listen better to what others want in their holiday memory files.
- Social skills: I need to connect.
I am certain that you are cutting me some slack when you see that my EQ is currently at a 6. Please cut yourself and others that same slack. EQ can grow through emotionally messy times like the holidays and the skills that you acquire will serve you and those you lead as you jump into the emotional messiness of 2015.
- Mary Beth King