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Discovering the Why Factor

I would like you to think for a moment like a great company.

We teach companies that their why (which we call purpose) must be discovered vs. made up. Your challenge is to discover what lies deep within you, correctly name it and then lead with it – this is your why. While the what is strategized and created, the why must be discovered and brought forth – in other words, it is already in there, so go get it.

When True Life Coaching (now Shandel Group) celebrated ten years in business, we were proud to say that our why had not changed from day one. In contrast, our growth requires the what and the how to continuously evolve. Things never stay the same around here … except our why.

Currently on our roster are two companies in the fifth generation of ownership. Both are in the middle of a huge change of the what and how. What keeps them grounded is their unchanging why, which allows for agility as markets change and business models morph. It is super fun to watch new leadership continue their great-grandfathers’ legacy.

At the same time, we are helping two start-ups who are growing spooky fast.

Company A is choosing to invest in the painstaking process of discovering their big why, defining their culture and strategy while differentiating themselves from the competition. The result is they are on track to make nearly two times their projections, and doing it with fewer people, all who love their work!

Company B start-up unfortunately is still in the weeds. The leader is unwilling to take a moment to invest in the why, believing he can lead with his personality alone. The result is a bottom-line accomplishment of the what with a high emotional drain to other team players, not to mention the lost opportunities.

As a leader – whether of a company, a family or life – can you articulate what you are uniquely good at and why you are so excited about living your life? On that foundation, can you strengthen your what and how until you are not just good, but great?

Why does it matter? Why do you matter?

You matter because you have something distinctive and special to contribute to this world before you leave it. That’s why.

Your Coach,

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What Will Your Legacy Be? Clarity #44

Do you realize that you have an innate desire to live a life that is significant, and leave a legacy that outlives you?

If you don’t, then you may keep running on adrenaline, chasing the next thing – hoping it will bring you the satisfaction you are looking for and the answer to the question: How do I make a difference?

After selling PayPal for $1.5 billion, the 32 year-old co-founder, Max Levchin, still couldn’t turn off his drive to succeed, and started a new company. I was fascinated when his fiancé got part of it right, telling a New York Times reporter on camera that it’s not about the money for him, it’s about the competition within him. However, Max himself diagnosed his own disease.

Max: “On a grand scale I worry about being irrelevant. That is sorta my number one concern in life is I don’t want to wake up and be in this sorta ‘Where-Are-They-Now’ file.”

Most successful people are unconsciously trying to prove something to someone. As we read in Week 11 of Clarity, it is a constant searching after the answer to the question, “Do I have what it takes?” and a desperate run from the fear, “What if I am found out?”

In short, we have a deep wound of insignificance: the feeling of having little or no meaning, value, or importance just as I am. The only way we feel worthy is when we keep producing, keep selling, keep moving – with the hope that one day we will achieve enough to stop having to prove ourselves to the unknown voice in our head. Mr. Levchin discovered that $1.5 billion isn’t enough. What is?

I suggest that we start from the inside out. When we settle the issues inside of us, we usually accomplish so much more with so much less – and also give to our spouse, our kids, our neighbors, and the world.

Good for Max Levchin for speaking truth on what he is really after: a relevant, meaningful life. I wonder how long he will work 100 hours a week and how many companies he’ll start before he realizes that relevance and significance are only found in what you do in the lives of others, meeting their needs – and many times those are intangible things without price tags.

Your Coach,

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5 Keys For Women to Succeed as Leaders

Can women truly achieve work/life balance? If that question brings you feelings of guilt, shame off you! According to LEXI keynote speaker Rebecca Pomering, day-to-day work/life balance is a myth. Instead, we should strive for work/life “WOBBLE.”

This is only one of the many jewels of wisdom Rebecca Pomering, CEO of Moss Adams Wealth Advisors, shared at LEXI 2013 in Seattle. Continue reading

5 Keys For Women to Succeed as Leaders

Can women truly achieve work/life balance? If that question brings you feelings of guilt, shame off you! According to LEXI keynote speaker Rebecca Pomering, day-to-day work/life balance is a myth. Instead, we should strive for work/life “WOBBLE.”

This is only one of the many jewels of wisdom Rebecca Pomering, CEO of Moss Adams Wealth Advisors, shared at LEXI 2013 in Seattle. Continue reading

The Cost of Living Your Passion

I just got confirmation that tomorrow we are streaming our 4th Annual LEXI Women’s Leadership Summit live online.

LEXI stands for Leaders Engage to eXchange Ideas. Our mission is to connect, equip and mentor women in both their professional and personal lives. We have 12 speakers and over 100 women leaders ready to exchange ideas and grow to their next level. The fact that we sold out and able to offer the live stream is amazing to me mainly because of all the obstacles we encountered along the way.

The Cost of Passion

I woke up inspired to share with you about passion and the cost of living a life with purpose. Everyone wants to know their purpose. This becomes more and more clear to me everyday as I work with leaders across the United States. In the last 10 days, I worked with 4 EO chapters. The common theme when you get down to the vulnerable space is purpose, legacy, and passion. What if you don’t know it? What does it take to find it? What does one do to define it?

What I want to discuss is the price tag to live it.

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The Cost Of Living Your Passion

I just got confirmation that tomorrow we are streaming our 4th Annual LEXI Women’s Leadership Summit live online.

LEXI stands for Leaders Engage to eXchange Ideas. Our mission is to connect, equip and mentor women in both their professional and personal lives. We have 12 speakers and over 100 women leaders ready to exchange ideas and grow to their next level. The fact that we sold out and able to offer the live stream is amazing to me mainly because of all the obstacles we encountered along the way.

The Cost of Passion

I woke up inspired to share with you about passion and the cost of living a life with purpose. Everyone wants to know their purpose. This becomes more and more clear to me everyday as I work with leaders across the United States. In the last 10 days, I worked with 4 EO chapters. The common theme when you get down to the vulnerable space is purpose, legacy, and passion. What if you don’t know it? What does it take to find it? What does one do to define it?

What I want to discuss is the price tag to live it.

My purpose is to help others live their purpose. It is why I wrote Clarity: Focusing on What Matters and frankly why I write this newsletter. It is why I get up out of bed. It is why I am passionate about offering myself to everyone I can to help them along the path to that authentic truth and abundant life. The joy of connecting with people and then watching them catch glimpses of the light coming on is unbelievable.

However, there is also great pain in the process because you have to get real and peeling those layers back causes people to run and short-cut their journey. Others commit to the process, but the progress can be slow as the proverbial two steps forward, one step back is a reality.

Obstacles Are Not Stop Signs

With LEXI, I hit so many obstacles that I considered canceling it at least a dozen times. For one month, we experienced every imaginable problem there could be, including a location change just 10 days before the event! Obstacle after obstacle had to be overcome and I am so busy with my real job of running my company that it has been 30 days of living on fumes. WHY?

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Why not just cancel it? Because I am passionate about it. I believe in it. I feel like I must do it to help people become leaders of purpose. When you believe in something strongly, you can’t see obstacles as stop signs you must believe in the end game. Gratefully, I had a partner in this endeavor, Debra Trappen, who has the same passion and complimentary gifts who was able to step in when I was weak. I couldn’t have made it through those weeks without her.

Who Shares Your Passion?

Living your purpose results in living with passion. What I find is my purpose has not changed but what I am passionate about during a certain season of life does. In this season, who shares your passion? It is truly necessary to have partners that share what you are passionate about to carry you through the tough times.

Here is the truth…

There will always be tough times. Pursuing your passion and what matters most will always come with a cost. There is a price to pay. Because nothing that matters comes easy. Sure it might be simple, but it simply isn’t easy. Overcoming adversity is a requirement. Sometimes we fare better than other times. However, there is no better reward in all the world than knowing you are making a difference in the life of another. What I have found is that the more clarity I have, the more passionate I get. Therefore, the bigger the assignment thus the higher the price. It is how we build character and prepare for the next big thing. 

Saturday is my next big thing!

LEXI is something I would like to do in other cities. I have vision for it to be “TED‘s Girlfriend” if you will. We will have video content available for all leaders and this group of women leaders on Saturday will trail blaze the path. Please join us online at 8:30am PDT sharp and/or join in via the twitter hashtag #LEXI13.  If you want to take the EQ assessment which I will be debriefing at 1:00pm PDT, then email me now and we will get you set up for a discounted fee.

Please live your passion! Please pay the price! It’s worth every penny!

The world needs your leadership – so LET’S DO THIS!

Your Coach, 

Quotes on Purpose

The poet Matthew Arnold made a prediction in the 1800s: “If ever the world sees a time when women will come together purely for the good of humanity, it will be a power as the world has never seen.”

Purpose creates an opportunity for value creation. Passion follows purpose. Passion creates energy. – Garrett Gunderson

The purpose of life is to discover your gift. The meaning of life is to give your gift away. - David Viscott

If you have a purpose in which you can believe, there’s no end to the amount of things you can accomplish. - Marian Anderson

You need to have a vision. Having a vision is the first step toward having the life you want. Purpose gives meaning to your life and changes your attitude and perspective about life. – Unknown

Taking action is how you GIVE your gift and live a life of true service to yourself and others. And that doesn’t mean that your life’s work has to be something that seems grand and noble. The real key to being of service and living your purpose is simply to do what you LOVE to do — whatever it may be. –  Rebecca Fine