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Leader is NOT a Title – It’s a Calling. #LEXI14

Leadership is a discipline, an art, a privilege. “Leader” is not a title, it’s a calling. We all lead, like it or not. Leadership is about influence and each of us have the opportunity for huge influence. My life’s purpose is to help others find their purpose. Those words hold great meaning to me and I get to fulfill my purpose every day of my life in some form or another. Specifically, I have a heart for leaders who want to powerfully lead their lives in such a way that the next generation will want to follow in their footsteps as the leader leaves a legacy.

Professional

At both TLC and the Chandelle Group, I get to do this every day at work. My job is to support leaders unnamedin finding their purpose first, then their team, and ultimately their organization, to achieve the next level of success. It is fascinating working with organizations that have this kind of vision because they are more profitable than those who do not.

Personal

My desire for each person I meet is that they will find peace and live with purpose. The most fulfilling right now is investing in my nieces and nephews – talking to them about their greatness and, most importantly, modeling for them what living with purpose looks like. The girls on command are ready to proclaim at all times … “Slaten Girls Are Fearless!”  Just walk up to them and say … “Slaten girls are…”. They will fiercely answer back “FEARLESS.”

Community

The LEXI Leadership Summit is a non-profit I started in 2008 to connect, equip and mentor women. I want women to have the confidence and courage to see themselves as leaders, to grow in their role as a leader, and to live a purposeful life as they impact others in their sphere of influence to do the same. Women do not invest in themselves and thus we created the LEXI Women’s Leadership Summit so women could come together, spend a day investing in their professional and personal development, and leave with an action plan, with the first step already in motion.

What women tell me they need:

  • Connect with other leaders and like-minded women. All of us have a myriad of roles and frankly too much to do. As a result, we isolate. We do not pick our head up long enough to realize we haven’t breathed, let alone connected in who knows how long.
  • Get equipped with practical tools, skills and insights. We don’t have time for untested ideas and ideologies. We need easily digested challenges that push us but can quickly be implemented to help get where we want to go.
  • Mentor and be mentored. We need the example, inspiration and lessons learned from women who have been where we want to go or fellow sojourners on our life’s path. We don’t need “one mentor” — we need a few to call upon and help us to our next level.

PrintThe next LEXI Women’s Leadership Summit  is October 24th in Reno, NV and it is not too late to book your flight down and join us. The theme is PURPOSE: Find It, Own It, Live It.  We have a video that describes what Lexi is and I’ve included one that displays my passion. Please forward this to any women who you know in the Reno / Lake Tahoe area, and here is my email blog subscriber promo code for $50 off (promo code: s2blog50)

If you are a woman, invest in yourself. If you are a man, there are women who need you to say, “take the day to invest in yourself – it’s on me. Enjoy!”

Thank you for helping me spread the word on LEXI and more importantly I hope you will go and live your purpose with passion today!

Your Coach,

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Worry is a False Sense of Control

Everyone has fear. The courageous learn to not listen to fear. Instead they choose to take action and press through to do what’s right.

The cowardly learn to listen to fear. They choose either passivity or control to hide behind — and ultimately compromise their values resulting in a boring meaningless life.

Either way it’s a choice. Your choice.

False Sense of Control

Remember I gave up worry for Lent? Well, choosing to not worry is nothing short of a miracle every day. Yes I fail sometimes. But what I notice is that when I stop myself, whatever I am thinking about is not that urgent, rational, or even real. When I stop the thought, nothing in my life changes!

You know why? Worry is trying to control the future, which clearly cannot be done. When we are anxious it is never about the present, it always about the future — and our need to control it.

Worry is a big fat lie and a false sense of control — which is addicting if you haven’t noticed.

Today on a coaching call, I had a client share about his victory over anxiety. He shared that his “A-HA” was that he is really good at solving problems and even better when it is a crisis. He is sometimes at his best in those situations. Therefore, why worry that something might happen when, first of all, it rarely ever comes true, and secondly, when it does, he is the man for the job to solve the problem quickly and efficiently. He has his joy back.

Learn to Trust

It’s true. We have what it takes to solve most problems! We all struggle with different fears, depending on how we are wired. Your fears may not even faze me, while my fears might make you laugh.

In my fast from worry, I am learning how much I suck at trust and lean heavily on worry for a false sense of security and control. However, I am learning the great lesson of trusting in something bigger than myself for that 3% of negative that might happen, and to leave the 97% behind (or at least for tomorrow to worry about LOL).

Live Fearlessly!

I often will ask my clients, “What if the fear of ______ (name area here) did not exist in your life, then what would you do?” The answers that pour forth are so amazing and life-giving it always gives me goosebumps. Try it right now and you will see what I mean.

Dismiss worry from your life! Or at least try it out for a few weeks. Join me for the next two weeks! Do not allow yourself to worry and see what happens!

Oh and one more thing. This entire epidemic of fear is the reason our theme to the 6th Annual LEXI Women’s Leadership Summit is FEARLESS! Send your women to it! Seriously you need to invest in the women in your life in this area of being courageous and bold in all areas. It is Friday, May 2, 2014, and here is a special promotional code for my personal discount when you register: tlc2014. SEND YOUR WOMEN!

Let me know your thoughts below.

Fearlessly Your Coach,

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5 Keys For Women to Succeed as Leaders

Can women truly achieve work/life balance? If that question brings you feelings of guilt, shame off you! According to LEXI keynote speaker Rebecca Pomering, day-to-day work/life balance is a myth. Instead, we should strive for work/life “WOBBLE.”

This is only one of the many jewels of wisdom Rebecca Pomering, CEO of Moss Adams Wealth Advisors, shared at LEXI 2013 in Seattle. Continue reading

Creating the Life You Desire

“There just aren’t enough hours in the day” … “If only there were two of me” … Have you ever stopped to think how many people would it actually take to live your life? In the case of True Life Coach, Mary Beth King’s clients, the answer was three – THREE people to do all that there was to be done. Can you relate? Continue reading

5 Keys For Women to Succeed as Leaders

Can women truly achieve work/life balance? If that question brings you feelings of guilt, shame off you! According to LEXI keynote speaker Rebecca Pomering, day-to-day work/life balance is a myth. Instead, we should strive for work/life “WOBBLE.”

This is only one of the many jewels of wisdom Rebecca Pomering, CEO of Moss Adams Wealth Advisors, shared at LEXI 2013 in Seattle. Continue reading