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Vulnerability and The Receiving of Help

One thing I wish I would have discovered earlier in life is that fullness of life requires greater and greater amounts of vulnerability. In my journey, I have learned that my vulnerability has a lot to do with receiving from others. I am a giver by nature and I hope to always be a generous giving person. However, what I have discovered is that giving is the easy thing to do, it is safe, and it does not expose me. Receiving, on the other hand, is something I am learning to do. I have to admit it still isn’t easy, because it makes me feel well…vulnerable.

Vulnerable to someone feeling I am taking advantage of them. Vulnerable to the guilt of asking too much. Vulnerable to taking too much and being seen as selfish. It is all ridiculous and truly it is prideful and disgusting. I think it is a deep seeded fear of rejection and I am sure a host of other fears. The lie I operate from is “I can do it all,” I want to be independent <and not need others. Yet I crave and need the connection that only comes from a community of give and take relationships.

The truth is we need others and it is a giving thing to do to let others help and support us. This allows them to be the giver and they have the opportunity to feel awesome because they helped the giver. Its all so twisted. AND YET as I encourage all of you – I am getting faster to asking for help and for accepting the amazing gifts and talents of those around me.

IMG_5611Today was a victorious day of receiving from so many talented people. I had fun. I worked hard, got stuff done, and enjoyed being me. Why? Because other people invested in me. They helped me. They gave their time and their talent to me and I received it.

Lisa helped me this morning with LEXI Women’s Leadership Summit with her passion and great marketing talent.IMG_5608

Julie is a serious hair master and went the extra mile so the LEXI promo video would be awesome.

Wendy used her 20 years of industry talent and coached me as we shot the video. She made me relax and when I started being corporate – said, “Hey, where did Shandel go?”

Mike generously provided us space to shoot and took us on a tour to find perfect setting.

Jessi after shooting the LEXI video, did one for my new company the Shandel Group.

Loretta jumped in when it looked like a vendor wasn’t going to show up.

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Tonight, Kristine will watch “Once Upon A Time” with me and manage the remote so I can multitask.

At the end of the day, my nieces will Facetime and make me smile. I will receive their love and IMG_4872affection with arms wide open.

I am full and I am happy because I humbled myself, I opened myself, and I cared enough about myself to receive the help I needed today. If only, I was more evolved that this was easy…simple, yes, but not easy. You will see me be more vulnerable and ask for more help. But for today, I was satisfied, grateful, and blessed.

Who do you need to ask to help you today?

Your Coach,

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Why Women Struggle with Confidence and Courage

Women leaders have unique skills and abilities that allow them to drive results, lead high performing teams and find meaning in their work. Yet they often feel isolated with the juggling of their conflicting priorities. The pressure can often take a toll on one’s confidence and courage. That is why we want to inspire them to be FEARLESS! Women you have what it takes! You can find your passion, live with purpose and use your superpower to leave an impact on the next generation.

Slide11My passion is to equip leaders to get to their next level. For the last 6 years, I have invested my give-back energy into the LEXI Women’s Leadership Summit. LEXI’s mission is to connect, equip and mentor women in their professional, personal and community endeavors.

May 2nd was the 6th annual LEXI summit in Seattle and we are having our next live summit in Reno on October 24, 2014.  HOWEVER – DRUM ROLL – we are doing a pre-event on May 23rd in Reno and all women are invited to attend. Here is the Facebook event page – please come.

Below is a recap from LEXI speaker, co-producer, and personal branding diva, Debra Trappen, as it was originally published on the d11 blog here.

Here’s Debra…

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Friday, May 2nd, I participated in, and co-produced, a women’s leadership summit called LEXI.  LEXI stands for Leaders Engaged in the eXchange of Ideas.

I am often asked “What do you talk about and hear at those women’s events?”.  This question always makes me smile and reflect on all of the fantastic moments experienced over the years.  #LEXI14 was no exception… there were ooooodles of amazing tips, trick, and truths shared throughout the day, by passionate, powerful, fearlessly vulnerable women in leadership.  So, I thought I would put together a recap blog post to share some of my favorite shares/quotes of the day, from each LEXI woman – and maybe dispel a myth or two along the way.

2014-05-02 08.49.04-1The morning was kicked off by the summit’s founder and President of True Life Coaching, Shandel Slaten.  Her keynote talk was entitled: The Quest for Valor

Some of my favorite takeaways:

  • “85% of what we worry about will never actually happen!”
  • “What risk would you take today if you were fearless?”
  • “Being fearless is not the absence of fear, it’s being brave in spite of it!”
  • “Being vulnerable is not a weakness, it’s a strength.”

Erica Coogan (with Moss Adams) shared her talk titled: Be A Fearless Superhero

A few quotes from her session:

  • “Don’t forget to give YOURSELF grace and latitude.”
  • “Own your fear and use it as ammunition to drive yourself forward.”
  • “When women band together – we move mountains.”

If you EMBRACE your authentic self…. YouMy talk was next… “Fire Up Your Personal Brand… with a sprinkle of FEARLESSNESS.”

A few fun takeaways :

  • “A key to being FEARLESS is knowing yourself. Be sure to define your purpose, passions & values.”
  • “Stop asking people what they do for a living. Start asking what they do for fun, and really connect.”
  • (and my personal favorite) - “If you embrace your authentic self, you have no competition.”

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Anne Marie Faiola (founder of Brambleberry) shared her story during her session entitled: Fortune Favors the Brave

  • “Never let your fear decide your fate.”
  • “Whatever transition you’re hoping to make, you need to communicate it to others.” 

..she also shared a super cute visual on OPTIMISM–>

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Mary Beth King‘s (of True Life Coaching) talk title: Create the Life You Want to Live
She took us through a fantastic visualization related to our “LIFE WHEEL”… and creating S.M.A.R.T. goals!  Top tidbits:

  • “What steps do you need to take today, this week, and this year to meet your life goals?”
  • “What would it feel like if you had 10′s inside your wheel?”
  • “Success is more likely to happen when we TELL SOMEONE ELSE to help keep us accountable.”

Kim Crumpler Peterson (owner of Uniquely Savvy) knocked it out of the park with an amazing, raw personal testimonial entitled: From Fear to Freedom: Challenging the Lies, Championing the Truth

  • “If you shrink back and play small, you rob your team of your unique contributions! Lead with your strengths.”
  • “You were born with a purpose! You are savvy. You are unique. You are worthy.”
  • “We have an ongoing story in our minds. A lot of it is not true. What lies are you believing? Challenge those lies.”

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Theresa Fette (CEO of Provident Trust Group) was up next with her talk:
“I Am Fearless Because I Have Been Afraid”

  • “To someone who doesn’t understand growth, it will look like destruction.”
  • “Spend far less time worrying about others’ expectations of you.”
  • “Consider and embrace the worst case scenario.”

 

Living Takes Learning: Becoming a True Life Long Learner was the final talk of the day from the magnificent Jeanette K. Winters (Corporate Talent Management Executive)!

  • “How do you achieve success? Go with your gut — it’s attached to your brain!” 
  • “Our brains are wired to produce negative messages… we have to LEARN to fight them.”
  • “NO is a complete sentence.” :)

My mantra from the day was simple.  Feel free to read it out loud and declare it for yourself too:

“I will tap into my personal bravery to become the woman/man of valor I am meant to be!”

 

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(Oh, and you truly are vulnerable if you tell a room of 150 women you are wearing SPANX… from the stage!)

The Cost of Living Your Passion

I just got confirmation that tomorrow we are streaming our 4th Annual LEXI Women’s Leadership Summit live online.

LEXI stands for Leaders Engage to eXchange Ideas. Our mission is to connect, equip and mentor women in both their professional and personal lives. We have 12 speakers and over 100 women leaders ready to exchange ideas and grow to their next level. The fact that we sold out and able to offer the live stream is amazing to me mainly because of all the obstacles we encountered along the way.

The Cost of Passion

I woke up inspired to share with you about passion and the cost of living a life with purpose. Everyone wants to know their purpose. This becomes more and more clear to me everyday as I work with leaders across the United States. In the last 10 days, I worked with 4 EO chapters. The common theme when you get down to the vulnerable space is purpose, legacy, and passion. What if you don’t know it? What does it take to find it? What does one do to define it?

What I want to discuss is the price tag to live it.

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The Cost Of Living Your Passion

I just got confirmation that tomorrow we are streaming our 4th Annual LEXI Women’s Leadership Summit live online.

LEXI stands for Leaders Engage to eXchange Ideas. Our mission is to connect, equip and mentor women in both their professional and personal lives. We have 12 speakers and over 100 women leaders ready to exchange ideas and grow to their next level. The fact that we sold out and able to offer the live stream is amazing to me mainly because of all the obstacles we encountered along the way.

The Cost of Passion

I woke up inspired to share with you about passion and the cost of living a life with purpose. Everyone wants to know their purpose. This becomes more and more clear to me everyday as I work with leaders across the United States. In the last 10 days, I worked with 4 EO chapters. The common theme when you get down to the vulnerable space is purpose, legacy, and passion. What if you don’t know it? What does it take to find it? What does one do to define it?

What I want to discuss is the price tag to live it.

My purpose is to help others live their purpose. It is why I wrote Clarity: Focusing on What Matters and frankly why I write this newsletter. It is why I get up out of bed. It is why I am passionate about offering myself to everyone I can to help them along the path to that authentic truth and abundant life. The joy of connecting with people and then watching them catch glimpses of the light coming on is unbelievable.

However, there is also great pain in the process because you have to get real and peeling those layers back causes people to run and short-cut their journey. Others commit to the process, but the progress can be slow as the proverbial two steps forward, one step back is a reality.

Obstacles Are Not Stop Signs

With LEXI, I hit so many obstacles that I considered canceling it at least a dozen times. For one month, we experienced every imaginable problem there could be, including a location change just 10 days before the event! Obstacle after obstacle had to be overcome and I am so busy with my real job of running my company that it has been 30 days of living on fumes. WHY?

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Why not just cancel it? Because I am passionate about it. I believe in it. I feel like I must do it to help people become leaders of purpose. When you believe in something strongly, you can’t see obstacles as stop signs you must believe in the end game. Gratefully, I had a partner in this endeavor, Debra Trappen, who has the same passion and complimentary gifts who was able to step in when I was weak. I couldn’t have made it through those weeks without her.

Who Shares Your Passion?

Living your purpose results in living with passion. What I find is my purpose has not changed but what I am passionate about during a certain season of life does. In this season, who shares your passion? It is truly necessary to have partners that share what you are passionate about to carry you through the tough times.

Here is the truth…

There will always be tough times. Pursuing your passion and what matters most will always come with a cost. There is a price to pay. Because nothing that matters comes easy. Sure it might be simple, but it simply isn’t easy. Overcoming adversity is a requirement. Sometimes we fare better than other times. However, there is no better reward in all the world than knowing you are making a difference in the life of another. What I have found is that the more clarity I have, the more passionate I get. Therefore, the bigger the assignment thus the higher the price. It is how we build character and prepare for the next big thing. 

Saturday is my next big thing!

LEXI is something I would like to do in other cities. I have vision for it to be “TED‘s Girlfriend” if you will. We will have video content available for all leaders and this group of women leaders on Saturday will trail blaze the path. Please join us online at 8:30am PDT sharp and/or join in via the twitter hashtag #LEXI13.  If you want to take the EQ assessment which I will be debriefing at 1:00pm PDT, then email me now and we will get you set up for a discounted fee.

Please live your passion! Please pay the price! It’s worth every penny!

The world needs your leadership – so LET’S DO THIS!

Your Coach, 

Quotes on Purpose

The poet Matthew Arnold made a prediction in the 1800s: “If ever the world sees a time when women will come together purely for the good of humanity, it will be a power as the world has never seen.”

Purpose creates an opportunity for value creation. Passion follows purpose. Passion creates energy. – Garrett Gunderson

The purpose of life is to discover your gift. The meaning of life is to give your gift away. - David Viscott

If you have a purpose in which you can believe, there’s no end to the amount of things you can accomplish. - Marian Anderson

You need to have a vision. Having a vision is the first step toward having the life you want. Purpose gives meaning to your life and changes your attitude and perspective about life. – Unknown

Taking action is how you GIVE your gift and live a life of true service to yourself and others. And that doesn’t mean that your life’s work has to be something that seems grand and noble. The real key to being of service and living your purpose is simply to do what you LOVE to do — whatever it may be. –  Rebecca Fine