Fear cripples creativity, leadership and passion. It keeps us from experiencing a life of joy, peace, and purpose. Fear is the enemy of hope, faith, and greatness. This month’s True Life Coaching newsletter addressed this issue head on and I wanted to share a piece of the story with you below and if you want the whole story simply subscribe here.
My seven-year-old nephew is such an excellent swimmer I encouraged him to join the summer swim team. Actually, I had to talk him into it. Ronnie cowers at the thought of trying something new. When he finally agreed, I naively thought we had won the battle. That was until he freaked out when the first day of practice arrived.
Thankfully Ronnie was coachable (start early!), and he let me walk him through four steps to conquering fear.
With as much courage as he could muster, he finally agreed to go and “try it” once. Well, bless his heart, after his first practice he called and actually said, “Auntie, thank you for the advice, it worked! I loved it!” (And who doesn’t like to be thanked for their advice by a seven-year-old!)
It’s been fewer than three weeks now and he is the best swimmer in his age bracket. He’s doing things he never dreamed he could do. For example, last night he swam 26 lengths of the pool at his first swim-a-thon. Auntie now owes a lot of money!
All of us struggle with fears and insecurities. Even we leaders. Being that so many fears take root during our childhood, I thought I’d share Ronnie’s experience in the next blog post, and let you see what you can glean from it.
Success is getting what you want, happiness is wanting what you get. –W.P. Kinsella
I love Summer and I love sunshine! It seems this recent heat wave nearly sent my Seattle friends over the edge as evidenced in their tweets and Facebook posts. Bless our hearts. We complain about the grey and rain and yet when we finally get the sunshine we long for.. we complain and grumble.
When I wrote Clarity: Focusing on What Matters I addressed this in week #32 and challenged readers that in order to be successful you first must know how you define success. It never ceases to amaze me how many people have never taken the time to define success for themselves. Instead they go through life with someone else’s definition and find they are never satisfied or better said never fulfilled.
What do you want?
What do you really, really want? Most people answer that question with what they do not have which I think is a lost opportunity. What you really, really want you may indeed already have and by your own definition be a successful person. Shocking!
To identify what you want and be clear on your “why” does not mean you don’t have goals and should not strive for what you want that you do not have. Conversely, there is joy in realizing you just might have more than you ever imagined which will energize the journey toward more.
Take some time this summer and really think about how you define success and prepare yourself to live it and receive it.
5 ways to prepare yourself for success:
- Define: What is it that you really want? Why?
- Identify: Where are you at right now in your life? Who are you?
- Motivation: What motivates you to be where you want to be? (the why)
- Goals: What are the top 3 goals you have?
- Preparation: Be prepared for the worst and best outcome.
Remember, you are eagle leaders and success is just who you are! Take one step toward defining your own success story before the day ends.
P.S. YAY! I am feeling rather successful that after months of tech issues, we launched our new website today. Check it out and tell the world.
“Sometimes the questions are the complicated and the answers are simple.” – Dr. Seuss
If there is one word that keeps coming up in so many of conversations it is the word “Simplify.” During our Week thespyexpert.com #2 challenge, we drilled down on simplifying our environment and this week we are invited to simplify our complicated lives by living by our values.
As I was preparing to launch into this week’s Clarity challenge, I got a phone call from a dear friend and a fellow entrepreneur who inspired me to shout it loud – KNOW YOUR VALUES = SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE.
We embark on Week 3 of Clarity: Focusing on What Matters. It has been fun to hear the progress of those who are taking the challenge seriously. While I was working on last week’s challenge to simplify everything, I came across this receipt. Now this faded expense report looking thing means nothing to you, but for me it took my breath away when I saw it. Continue reading
Photo courtesy of Ran Slaten
Joy and criticism cannot co-exist. I remember the day those convicting 5 words hit me hard and caused a huge shift. Think about it. Can you have that peaceful wonderful joy while you are being judgmental and critical of others?
Is your leadership style marked by joy or judgment?
Yesterday, I coached an incredibly talented leader who was super frustrated with folks above him and below him. He had every right to be and yet I sensed a critical spirit that had to be addressed first. Confronting his judgments, we started to dig into truth, I sensed he was checking out. Continue reading
Last weekend, I took my buddy's canoe out for the first time in 3 years and forgot all about the feet peddle things that steer the rudder. I ended up working over time, wearing my arms out, and struggling to stay straight ahead. There I was wasting all sorts of energy because I was not using the small easy touch of my feet to the steer the rudder. DAH!
Every person has core values that make up who we are, what we want and how we live. Identifying your core values will help you live in the moment and focus on what is truly important.
Your core values are the rudder that guide your life. Continue reading
At our EO Seattle Kick-off event, we were treated to a special surprise appearance by Ben Comen. Who is Ben Comen? Check out this video and I suggest you grab a kleenex. Continue reading
Family is one of my values
For the next two weeks we are hitting values hard! Why?
Because if you don't know your top 5 values you will float around like a jellyfish making poor decisions. Often, I find that when we are living a complicated, adrenaline based, non-stop life, we wake up one day finding no joy, little fun, and lost purpose.
It is imperative that you get back in line with your values. Continue reading
Tonight at 11pm, local TV station, KOLO 8 featured True Life Coaching with an inspiring online headline Business Coaching Brings Success to Local Company. Bringing on two new coaches this month and launching Clarity: Focusing on What Matters gives me plenty to talk about these days!
After interviewing me, they wanted to interview a TLC client so I suggested one of my favorite Reno peeps, Mike Bosma. You will find that The Bosma Group culture is one to be proud of and the proof speaks in that they have been a Greater Reno-Tahoe Best Places to Work finalist for the last 3 years. They are dedicated to happy profitable customers and serving their local community with excellence. They have grown so fast that they need to move and next week open up the Bosma Business Center!
My worlds collide!
On Monday I was scrolling through my twitter updates and saw that @prolango was coming to Reno to do his popular career workshop. WHAT? My friend from Seattle, Paul Anderson is coming to Reno? I was shocked as I had wanted to send a family member to his seminar for years and now it was coming here? Was it open to the public, what's the deal, I had to figure out what was up.
With both our crazy schedules, we finally were able to connect at 9:30 PM. I started asking him a bunch of questions as my desire was to help promote the event and get the important message out, but his answers were so brilliant I knew I had to record this chat so anyone interested could hear why they absolutely must grab the rare opportunity and attend. Continue reading