As we journey together to clarity, this week's challenge is to F.O.C.U.S. On What Matters. The O stands for focusing on the others in your life. Be it your entire organization, your team, or your family – are you an other-centered leader? Yesterday, I facilitated an offsite with a truly dedicated team but their number one need from their managers was respect. I have to say they asked for it in a humble manner, but they were asking for their contribution to be valued.
I was quickly reminded how easy it is for leaders to get focused on the result and loose sight of the people working hard to make sure they achieve that result.
Being a servant leader is a high calling. People desire to follow someone who respects them and holds them accountable to accomplish great things. At our 2011 Women's Leadership Summit, my dear friend Carol Olsby stated, “People do not want to be managed. They want to be led.” Does anyone really want to be managed? Do you?
Take a moment and consider the last 24 hours. Have you spent a majority of that time focused on the needs of others or yourself? Is there a healthy balance between the two. Consider how you might spend the rest of the week focused on the needs of others. Think about how to be grateful for even the most difficult people in your life.
A great resource to assist is the book Leadership and Self Deception. It is an easy to read story that teaches big lessons of how to be an effective other centered person. Right now, I am reading the author's second book and looking forward to sharing more about it in the days to come.
What obstacles stand in your way of being an other-centered leader? I'd love to hear your thoughts!